Theory of Relativity.

In the past people have talked to me about the theory that people create their own realities. When I used to hear this I used think they were full of s$#t. But now I’m not so against the idea but I guess with a difference.

I do believe that people can and do create their own reality but it is a reality created from the existing Reality ( I use the capital to denote the objective reality). I hope that makes sense.

Let me explain. There is Reality that exists for all of us, it is the same for everyone and we share it. Then individuals take that reality and perceive it differently dependent on their frame of mind or mental state. So for any given event, people will perceive it differently but that difference, can in general be plotted on a spectrum with the actual event in an objective sense being the anchor and peoples perception or reality of the event being placed to either side of the event on that spectrum to a matter of degrees. There will be outliers of course but we are talking in general and I believe this can be allowed and the argument will still carry weight.

Now lets use for this case the words positive and negative with the connotations good and bad. So when something happens we perceive the event, which does actually occur, as being either positive (good) or negative (bad), based on our prior experiences, our mood, how hungry we are right then etc. This then becomes our reality. A Real event has occurred but we have changed it to fit our perception of what we expect at the time.

This also applies to people, we perceive people the same way, we put them through our filter and they may become something that in reality they are not, this can be good or bad. Every action they perform, gets put through this filter, and you build a picture of them. But you must not forget, that this picture gets sourced from the big Reality. Let me give you an example, you could be a very positive person, who always sees the good in others, a glass half full type. You then meet someone who in Reality is a lets say for want of a better word, a shit. He performs an action in Reality, which you perceive, because of your positive outlook , as being further up the positive spectrum, than the actual action is. I believe that if these two people were to continue to interact eventually the negative action would become apparent, there would be a slide down the spectrum, past the Reality of where the person sits on that spectrum then into a negative perception. Where it will become harder and harder for you to change your perception of that person.

But I think knowing all this is great because it gives you an option, I believe that it is possible to train yourself to be objective to perceive the true nature of events for what they are and have empathy for other people. To stand outside of your own previous conditioning and develop a greater understanding of how events are linked. Then this might sound strange but to then condition yourself, as this takes time and will, to look for the positive and ignore the negative, to see the best in people. This I believe because we reflect back to people images of themselves and everyone in this life is striving to be understood on some level whether it is the freedom to be left alone or the chance be perceived as something better than they believe themselves to be. In a word to be free, free from the restrictions that they, those around them and society has placed on them. This is an idealistic thing to write about, and much harder to do in practice because it requires anyone who takes this path to drag themselves out on their own, to not play the victim and take responsibility for their perception of the world.

To agree with this, you have believe that there is positive and negative direction in life, in our actions. We can communicate these things and we share this reality. I’m going to remove the good and bad tags here and just say that positive means beneficial and negative means not beneficial.

Ben.